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Bullying- Will it ever stop! Posted By: suenjmom
Posted On: 11/15/2008
My son (now 15) has been bullied for six years now by the same kid. It started in elementary school when we first moved. A well meaning teacher decided to prepare her class for our son by doing a lesson on Aspergers sydrome. This backfired from her original intention. My son from day 1 was labled the odd kid, the one no one wanted to have anything to do with. He was bullied and isolated immediately. Over the years it has gotten worse and worse and the other kid has not let up at all. By middle school the situation had escalated from verbal harassement to an actual physical assault. My son tried to fight back but was over powered by the bully and his following of about 17 kids.
The school had attempted to address the issue but their efforts usually made the situation worse.
Now in high school, I have a son that honestly just can't take it anymore. He is fortunate to have one actual friend who has stood by him and constantly tries to reassure him. But, daily verbal harassement by a group of kids finally got to be too much for him. About a month ago, my son planned (in detail) his suacide attempt. Fortunatelly his friend found out and told a conselor and the school and we intervened before he could carry this out. Now my son is diagnosed with severe depression, on medication, in invidivual counseling and group counseling. He has said to this bully, "I don't want to fight you, I don't want to be your friend, I just want to be left alone." Unfortunatelly this has not happened so far.
The school is trying to do something to help, but so far nothing has changed.
I live in constant fear of how far this will go.
I just don't know why after 6 years this kid can't just stop!
       
autti34 wrote this reply on 11/16/2008
i was teasd alot an it contued when i was trying to work .i thought it would be diffent once i was out of school .but work was no diff then school co workjers treat you like your socil dezie it was awfull

frogfoot1969 wrote this reply on 11/16/2008
I feel so badly for him. This is terrible. I have heard that bullying is suppose to be taken extremely serious due to all the recent school shooting. The school should treat that bully like a terrorist. At the very least he should be removed from regular school and placed in an Alternative school. I am Sure your child is not the only one being tormented by this person. I think I would contact a lawyer and see what your son's rights are.

Jake9068 wrote this reply on 11/18/2008
I heard this father interview on a local radio station . Campaign Against BullyingMonday, November 10, 2008 Email article | Print article | RSSFather of teen who committed suicide speaks out.For more information on "Project 51" please call 818 772 5867or toll free beginning November 18th at 1 866 834-3891Brian CharlesSignal Staff WriterJeremiah Lasater sent a poignant message in the time it took to pull a trigger.Jeremiah’s dad heard the message and vows to spread it the rest of his life.“He was saying, ‘Dad, I’m tired of this. This needs to stop,’” said Jeff Lasater, Jeremiah’s father.Jeremiah didn’t utter those words. His actions spoke for him, Jeff said.Jeremiah, a 14-year-old freshman, shot himself in a bathroom at Vasquez High School Oct. 20. The single shot that took his life was testimony that the taunts and teasing other students aimed at Jeremiah were too much, his father said.The teasing dated back to middle school, and school officials said they dealt with the bullying. But Jeff Lasater says they didn’t.During an Oct. 23 Acton-Agua Dulce Unified School District board meeting, Vasquez high employees shared their stories about Jeremiah’s trouble with bullies.Jeff didn’t see the suffering his son was going through.“He would come home every day and talk about his day,” Jeff said. “Jeremiah never let on that things weren’t fine.”Jeff saw his son beginning to blossom. Jeremiah, who stood 6 feet, 6 inches tall and weighed more than 300 pounds, joined the football team during the summer. His size made him coveted by coaches who were willing to work with his physical potential and improve his social skills.“He was really coming out of his shell,” Jeff said. Then the unthinkable happened. Jeremiah walked into a school bathroom and killed himself.Jeff doesn’t talk much about that day. “I don’t want to relive it at all,” he said.But Jeremiah Lasater’s legacy didn’t die in the school bathroom, he said. Jeff is founding Project 51. The nonprofit organization is designed to stop bullying.“Bullying is like a cancer. The only way to stop it is to cut it out,” he said. Project 51 includes a toll-free number for kids or parents to call when they witness bullying. Callers can leave the name and contact information of the school.Project 51 will ask the school to conduct an internal investigation into the incident. If the school fails to conduct the investigation within 24 hours, Project 51 will send a representative to the school to meet with administrators to plea for an investigation.If that fails, Project 51 will take its grievance to the school board, Lasater said.Project 51 also addresses prevention.“The parents of the bullies often don’t know their kids are the problem,” Jeff said.He hopes bringing in the parents will make the entire community aware of the problem and bring together all the resources the community can offer. “Bullying is part of the culture,” Jeff said about the frequency of high school bullying. To change that culture, Project 51 includes teen mentoring, in which high school seniors are partnered with at-risk kids, who are often targets of bullies. Mentoring builds bonds between students, and in that environment bullying cannot thrive, he said. Jeff said his plans are ambitious. “I want a program that all schools will use,” he said. His plan is to start a model program that will spread nationwide.But Lasater knows it will take more to make it happen.“I am looking for help from anyone who is committed to stopping bullying,” he said. “When we put our kids on the bus we think our kids are safe. They are going to a war zone. Now it’s time to fix the problem

wildchild2007 wrote this reply on 11/24/2008
Have you contacted the police dept?? I am dealing with this same issue. I am so sick it! I was just letting the school deal with it but you know your story really empowers me to do more before we get to your point!! You should too! Hugs!

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