Hey, I would like to see more dads on this site. I noticed it is gender heavy :). So, if you know of an ASD dad get him on board. Happy New Year, Kevin
janneane7 wrote this reply on Jan 05, 2008 10:26 pm
Hey KevinI work at an autism resource center and I have been saying this is a great place for Dad's. Hopefully we'll get some to join. I'm also going to an Autism Parent's Retreat next week and will share this with all of the Dads there.Jan
shannonj wrote this reply on Jan 07, 2008 4:38 am
I agree Kevin...There are a few dads here--we just need to bring them out and help them find their voice. Any ideas?
HeatherK wrote this reply on Jan 09, 2008 7:22 am
I will send Avery over straight away (he is my husband). He would love to chat with you, but has had a very bad work week. He also was at home with the kids (both ASD) for 1 1/2 years, so he will really relate to everyone here!
Heather and Avery King
Carmichael, CA
shannonj wrote this reply on Jan 10, 2008 12:41 pm
Hi Kevin-Can you submit some journal topics that might get dads talking? I will be happy to feature them if you can help me know what dads want to talk about...
- Norvaljoe wrote this reply on Jan 10, 2008 3:50 pm
Yeah, like "Power tools and your son", or "Autism and deer hunting, your boys first outing".
KevinLivsDad wrote this reply on Jan 15, 2008 5:34 am
@ shannonjYou know marriage is tough as mine failed even before autism. Maybe some non-bitchy constructive ASD challenged marriage tips. I have a hunch that married ASD parents are getting laid a lot less than "typical parents" ;) I think dads grieve a ton internally
KevinLivsDad wrote this reply on Jan 15, 2008 5:46 am
@ janneane7 Yes, that is a great idea why don't we all share with the various dist lists we are on, seminars, etc. etc.
KevinLivsDad wrote this reply on Jan 15, 2008 5:06 pm
@ shannonj my comment above got cut-off. I think dads grieve a lot (About our kids with ASD)
xavsparents wrote this reply on Jan 21, 2008 12:14 am
I signed up today and will try to help with the "Dads" voice. Mark
mommy2specialtony wrote this reply on Jan 21, 2008 7:11 pm
I will try to get my husband on here but not sure if he will or not...He still struggles with the whole thing...
Guichetta wrote this reply on Jan 23, 2008 2:36 am
my husband has been paying attention to my recent use and is very interested!I have been finding it interesting on how many of the participants do not speak through their experience as couples or the evaluation of the other parent.I have been working in a group for newlt diagnosed families as a mentor and we found it extremely difficuly to get fathers to show up and then to participate appropriately. Our culture is very awkward towards this but it need to change. The fact that most people affected by ASD are boys I find it controdictory that they are learning from mainly women? Shouldn't we be teaching them to be men?What do you think
Guichetta wrote this reply on Jan 23, 2008 2:55 am
please check out a paper I added to the library. It looks at the difference in stess
KevinLivsDad wrote this reply on Jan 28, 2008 12:23 am
Good comments really good... You know I think there is somehting primal with dads... I think it is a sense of primal perceived genetic failure. Our DNA caused this. I don't believe that but, I think that at an instinctual level dads may think like that.
- Guichetta wrote this reply on Jan 30, 2008 4:54 am
As a mom I feel the same way and know so does my husband. Very insightful. Thanks
- slhh130 wrote this reply on Feb 29, 2008 1:11 am
Its not just the dad's DNA causing this. In our case...it's me and my family. I come from a long line of "traits". I do feel like a failure genetically. Just think how unusual I am being one of very few women causing this. As far as Dads being involved, I wish there were more Dads in here and at our groups. They are very unrepresented. There is a Dad's group around here that is meeting this Saturday so I sent it to my husband. I doubt he will go though.Sheri
