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#1 2008-07-10 04:50:35
- Sherry
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Frustration and Lashing Out
My 6-year old granddaughter just had another meltdown and went after her sister, hitting and screaming. She had a one day suspension from school in May because she got frustrated and went after a para.
Is anyone else dealing with a kiddo who gets frustrated and angry and lashes out? Any tips or ideas for coping and helping her?
I think she needs to go to the "naughty spot" but her mommy is trying to talk her though it. Not working.
Mom and big sister just left - and I put the little one in the naughty spot for six minutes. Doing my best to ignore her until the timer rings. Do "time outs" work for Autistic/Asperger kids?
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#2 2008-07-10 19:35:52
- LisaAutismAdvocate
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Re: Frustration and Lashing Out
It depends on the Child, but I really think the biggest thing not just with our kids but with all kids is to be consistant. Do you have access to a behavior therapist in your area....that might be a good place to start...and find out what they would suggest...so you all could do the samething....but I know that is hard, if one person doesnt want to cooperate. The other thing is our kids are like normal children, in that they are very smart and they will test the boundaries to see who will let them get away with what. I know my son does....which can be a challenge, cause mom is more stubborn than dad on some things and he knows that too. Also with my son, and this is really difficult at times too...but I try to beat the meltdown....by not letting his frustration get to that level, because once he gets to that level...its very hard to bring him out of it. And that is really hard sometimes....because there are just times when that's not possible either.
So I know I'm rambling and probably not making much sense....I think the biggest thing we can do is hang tough...and Keep trying. Hang in there!!!
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#3 2008-07-10 22:43:02
- Sherry
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Re: Frustration and Lashing Out
Consistency is the real problem here. The little one just started to get argumentative and took a not-really serious punch at her mommy. I insisted she get into the Naughty Spot and mommy backed me up. The little one ran back into the living room crying that she wanted to watch Barney on tv. I turned off the tv and made her get onto the Naughty Spot and set the timer for 6 minutes again.
Hopefully after a few more times of this she will stop slamming the door and kicking the floor and screaming and crying while she's in the Naughty Spot, because after a couple of minutes her mommy got up and left the room to take a shower. If left up to her she will do anything so she doesn't have to listen to that.
At least her daddy seems to be doing better about expecting good behavior since we started going to the family therapist. He is better at heading off meltdowns, but then he only has the girls on the weekend when he doesn't have anything else to do except watch tv. But it can't be easy for the little one when there are three adults who seem to have different expectations.
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