FoggyRock General Forum

My daughter and her husband live about an hour away from me.  Their son, Benjamin is 6 yrs old. 95lb aand around 4' tall. He has PDD/NOS.  Most of the time Ben is very happy and loving. He just wants people to pay attention all the time to what he says and to play with him.
But, when something doesn't go right he will have a meltdown. He hits,kicks,screams and so on. He's so strong that when he hits  you, you know it.  Most of the time my daughter is the one who gets the hits. I'm afraid he's going o hurt her one of this days.
Anyway, my son-in-law does nothing with Ben. No playing just yelling at him which only makes the meltdowns worse. My son-in-law thinks he knows how to raise Ben. But I know that yelling at Ben is not the way to handle things.
My daughter can't say anything to her husband cause he yells at her too. He's the boss of everything they do. She has no support other than myself and my husband. She trys to come to our house on weekends to get a break, but that isn't enough.
I try to tell her to call places but she's afraid that her husband will say she doesn't need anyone.
I don't know what to do to help her and Ben.  I even told her to leave her husband. She'd be better off.