Understanding autism cultural competency includes making compassionate accommodations when and where possible in consideration of someone’s sensory sensitivities. This requires not only awareness but compromise. I know of parents who insist that their children with autism go to Disney World though each child clearly protests while there—further stigmatizing others’ perceptions of the autistic “brat” when, in fact, the behavior is clearly communicating, “I’m in pain and don’t want to be here!”
I encourage parents, instead, to focus on prevention instead of intervention; partnering with their children well in advance of an activity or an environment to equip the very sensitive one with strategies, techniques, and devices to pull it off and get through it as successfully as possible, averting the assaultive irritants that conspire their undoing. And I implore the average onlooker not to jump to hasty and judgmental conclusions but to believe that we all have good reasons for doing what we’re doing, and we all are doing the very best we know how to on the spot and in the moment—even the child who outwardly appears to be the product of “bad parenting.”