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Greeting to you all. I know you are saying about time she tells us something about her self lmbo. Well I am a MSAHM of four wonderful kids.

Three girls Lonette 21 soon to graduate next month from Grambling State. Erica 20 Sophomore from Grambling State. Brianna 14 8th grade and my son Eric 13 he was diagnosed with Asthma at 8 month, Autism/PDD at 2, Absence Seizures at 10 and now ADD/ADHD. I have been married for 20 years to my wonderful husband Eric as time goes by you will learn more about us.

Eric was born August 18, 1995 the youngest of 4 children he has three othere sister’s Lonette 21, Erica 19 and Brianna 13. The delivery with Eric was normal except the several cases of false labor he weighed 6 pounds 7 ounces and made his television debuet that same day along with his sister Brianna Hubby and I

. While growing up he had multiple ear infections and was diagnosed with Asthma at the age of 9 months we almost lost him at that point.

We began to notice something was wrong when he spoke his first sentence at the age of one which was "Hey chuckle head" and from then on nothing more was said except for mommy and daddy, so in speaking to other people they just said that is normal for boys mature slower then girls and not to worry so we didnt.

On a normal visit to his see his physician Dr Myrah Kahn she began to notice things in Eric like his speech not talking in full sentences, or when he wanted something he would grab you by the finger and lead you to it and point or just grunt.

So she suggested we or when you would ask him a question he would just repeat it so we suggested we take him to have his hearing checked so off to Olive View Medical we went, the hearing test came out fine.

Where they gave a series of other test and thats when we were given the news that Eric had Autism and it felt like my world came crumbling down.

I mean all I felt was anger, frustration, sadness for about two weeks I was on a fog, but then I had to get it together so I could get

Eric the help he needed for we started to see how this was effecting him how he would become frustrated when you could not understand him so he would become angry and fight, his attention span was very short and he would cry for no reason.

But as time when by and he got the proper care from schools like Horaceman, Providencia and Miller and all the wonderful teachers and assistants that worked with him.

. Also the wonderful people from the Frank D Lanterman Center especially Darlene who came into our home and helped us with Eric with the toilet training it was a long process but we all got it done.

Angela how has come in and helped with behavioral issues when needed. In 2006 he was diagnosed with Absence seizures and now in 2008 they think he may have adhd we are having him tested in a few week for that.

It has been a never ending journey with Eric sometimes regression will set in or he will have meltdowns so bad that I just want to sit down and cry with him.

School has had its up and downs his last school he did so well he gave the graduation speech that you can find on my page here.

This year has not been that kind a few of the kids have not been that acceptable of Eric, he has had his arm broken, picked on things thrown at him all because he is different, and friendly kid and according to the school dont fit into the "normal range of a child with Autism" what ever that means. But he is not letting the fact that he is "Different change him" he is loved by so many people due to his charming personaliy thats why we call him our Prince lol.

Just last week he was asked by the Spanish teacher if she could have him in her 7th period class here he normally takes Piano, the reason there is a child in there that will not speak but will communicate with Eric in Spanish, and its funny for when Eric speaks in English he tends to stutter, but when speaking in Spanish it flows out smooth and he has no accent.

So Eric on his on accord agreeded to change his class so he can help his friend to learn to speak in English.

So yes Autism has his bad themes but at times Autism can bring out qualities in our kids we never knew they had.

Have a blessed day

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Ten ways we misunderstand children
by Caliboo818 on 07.30.08 - public

1. We expect children to be able to do things before they are ready.

We ask an infant to keep quiet. We ask a 2-year-old to sit still. We ask a 4-y...

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1. We expect children to be able to do things before they are ready.

We ask an infant to keep quiet. We ask a 2-year-old to sit still. We ask a 4-year-old to clean his room. In all of these situations, we are being unrealistic. We are setting ourselves up for disappointment and setting up the child for repeated failures to please us. Yet many parents ask their young children to do things that even an older child would find difficult. In short, we ask children to stop acting their age.

2. We become angry when a child fails to meet our needs.

A child can only do what he can do. If a child cannot do something we ask, it is unfair and unrealistic to expect or demand more, and anger only makes things worse. A 2-year-old can only act like a 2-year-old, a 5-year-old cannot act like a 10-year-old, and a 10-year-old cannot act like an adult. To expect more is unrealistic and unhelpful. There are limits to what a child can manage, and if we don't accept those limits, it can only result in frustration on both sides.

3. We mistrust the child's motives.

If a child cannot meet our needs, we assume that he is being defiant, instead of looking closely at the situation from the child's point of view, so we can determine the truth of the matter. In reality, a "defiant" child may be ill, tired, hungry, in pain, responding to an emotional or physical hurt, or struggling with a hidden cause such as food allergy. Yet we seem to overlook these possibilities in favor of thinking the worst about the child's "personality".

4. We don't allow children to be children.

We somehow forget what it was like to be a child ourselves, and expect the child to act like an adult instead of acting his age. A healthy child will be rambunctious, noisy, emotionally expressive, and will have a short attention span. All of these "problems" are not problems at all, but are in fact normal qualities of a normal child. Rather, it is our society and our society's expectations of perfect behavior that are abnormal.

5. We get it backwards.

We expect, and demand, that the child meet our needs - for quiet, for uninterrupted sleep, for obedience to our wishes, and so on. Instead of accepting our parental role to meet the child's needs, we expect the child to care for ours. We can become so focussed on our own unmet needs and frustrations that we forget this is a child, who has needs of his own.

6. We blame and criticize when a child makes a mistake.

Yet children have had very little experience in life, and they will inevitably make mistakes. Mistakes are a natural part of learning at any age. Instead of understanding and helping the child, we blame him, as though he should be able to learn everything perfectly the first time. To err is human; to err in childhood is human and unavoidable. Yet we react to each mistake, infraction of a rule, or misbehavior with surprise and disappointment. It makes no sense to understand that a child will make mistakes, and then to react as though we think the child should behave perfectly at all times.

7. We forget how deeply blame and criticism can hurt a child.

Many parents are coming to understand that physically hurting a child is wrong and harmful, yet many of us forget how painful angry words, insults, and blame can be to a child who can only believe that he is at fault.

8. We forget how healing loving actions can be.

We fall into vicious cycles of blame and misbehavior, instead of stopping to give the child love, reassurance, self-esteem, and security with hugs and kind words.

9. We forget that our behavior provides the most potent lessons to the child.

It is truly "not what we say but what we do" that the child takes to heart. A parent who hits a child for hitting, telling him that hitting is wrong, is in fact teaching that hitting is right, at least for those in power. It is the parent who responds to problems with peaceful solutions who is teaching his child how to be a peaceful adult. So-called problems present our best opportunity for teaching values, because children learn best when they are learning about real things in real life.

10. We see only the outward behavior, not the love and good intentions inside the child.

When a child's behavior disappoints us, we should, more than anything else we do, "assume the best". We should assume that the child means well and is only behaving as well as possible considering all the circumstances (both obvious and hidden from us), together with his level of experience in life. If we always assume the best about our child, the child will be free to do his best. If we give only love, love is all we will receive.

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Top 10 Facts About Autism
by Caliboo818 on 07.11.08 - public

Parents of children with autism quickly become authorities on the subject. But what about in-laws, teachers, coaches, and cousins? Few people outside ...

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Parents of children with autism quickly become authorities on the subject. But what about in-laws, teachers, coaches, and cousins? Few people outside the immediate family really want to read 20 closely-written pages from the National Institutes of Health. This brief, pithy article provides the bare bones basics for a quick read - along with links to more in-depth information for those who want to know.

1. Autism Is a 'Spectrum' Disorder
People with autism can be a little autistic or very autistic. Thus, it is possible to be bright, verbal, and autistic as well as mentally retarded, non-verbal and autistic. A disorder that includes such a broad range of symptoms is often called a spectrum disorder; hence the term "autism spectrum disorder." The most significant shared symptom is difficulty with social communication (eye contact, conversation, taking another's perspective, etc.).

2. Asperger Syndrome is a High Functioning Form of Autism
Asperger Syndrome (AS) is considered to be a part of the autism spectrum. The only significant difference between AS and High Functioning Autism is that people with AS usually develop speech right on time while people with autism usually have speech delays. People with AS are generally very bright and verbal, but have significant social deficits (which is why AS has earned the nickname "Geek Syndrome"). 3. People With Autism Are Different from One Another
If you've seen Rainman or a TV show about autism, you may think you know what autism "looks like." In fact, though, when you've met one person with with autism you've met ONE person with autism. Some people with autism are chatty; others are silent. Many have sensory issues, gastrointestinal problems, sleep difficulties and other medical problems. Others may have social-communication delays - and that's it.4. There Are Dozens of Treatments for Autism - But No 'Cure'
So far as medical science is aware, there is at present no cure for autism. That's not to say that people with autism don't improve, because many improve radically. But even when people with autism increase their skills, they are still autistic, which means they think and perceive differently from most people. Children with autism may receive many types of treatments. Treatments may be biomedical, sensory, behavioral, developmental or even arts-based. Depending upon the child, certain treatments will be more successful than others.5. There Are Many Theories on the Cause of Autism, But No Consensus
You may have seen or heard news stories about possible causes of autism. Theories range from mercury in infant vaccines to genetics to the age of the parents to almost everything else. At present, most researchers think autism is caused by a combination of genetic and environmental factors - and it's quite possible that different people's symptoms have different causes.6. People Don't Grow Out of Autism 
Autism is a lifelong diagnosis. For some people, often (but not always) those who receive intensive early intervention, symptoms may decrease radically. People with autism can also learn coping skills to help them manage their difficulties and even build on their unique strengths. But a person with autism will probably be autistic throughout their lives.7. Families Coping with Autism Need Help and Support
Even "high functioning" autism is challenging for parents. "Low functioning" autism can be overwhelming to the entire family. Families may be under a great deal of stress, and they need all the non-judgemental help they can get from friends, extended family, and service providers. Respite care (someone else taking care of the person with autism while other family members take a break) can be a marriage and/or family-saver!8. There's No 'Best School' for a Child with Autism
You may have heard of a wonderful "autism school," or read of a child doing amazingly well in a particular type of classroom setting. While any given setting may be perfect for any given child, every child with autism has unique needs. Even in an ideal world, "including" a child with autism in a typical class may not be the best choice. Decisions about autistic education are generally made by a team made up of parents, teachers, administrators and therapists who know the child well.9. There Are Many Unfounded Myths About Autism
The media is full of stories about autism, and many of those stories are less than accurate. For example, you may have heard that people with autism are cold and unfeeling, or that people with autism never marry or hold productive jobs. Since every person with autism is different, however, such "always" and "never" statements simply don't hold water. To understand a person with autism, it's a good idea to spend some time getting to know him or her - personally!10. Autistic People Have Many Strengths and Abilities
It may seem that autism is a wholly negative diagnosis. But almost everyone on the autism spectrum has a great to deal to offer the world. People with autism are among the most forthright, non-judgemental, passionate people you'll ever meet. They are also ideal candidates for many types of careers.

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