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Hi everyone I am Tracy a married 36 yr old mum of two boys with Asd. My 6 year old Zak has aspergers and my 4 year old Kai, has more complex autism with alot of additional sensory needs. It can be quite challenging having two boys at opposite ends of the spectrum but our family are very supportive and especially my husband Lee, who is my rock in times of need.
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by Crofty on 04.16.08 - public - 119 visits
I suppose I'm acting rather childish at the moment but I'm feeling rather sorry for myself! It's my 36th birthday today and my 6yr old understands but my 4 yr old hasn't a clue and sometimes I don't think he even cares if I exist. Pathetic I know but it's just got me down today. Anyone got any positive vibes they can throw my way.
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Crofty
Posted on Wed, 16 Apr 2008
I've said it before and I'll say it again - Fellow Foggy rock friends you are awesome! Where would I be without you! xxx
Bubs :)
Posted on Wed, 16 Apr 2008
Hi Happy Birthday too. Tom has taken a long time to even grasp birthdays and now presumbs that it means his birthday and often pushes to the middle to get to the pressies and open them. Tom is twelve and only said happy birthday mummy this year.. Even then he still wanted to open my gifts. cheeky x
kathy630
Posted on Wed, 16 Apr 2008
Happy birthday, and don't worry , things get better. The first time Michelle called me Mom it was the BEST. Remember that you are Mom, and you are a big part of his life. Again, Happy Birthday & enjoy.
carmel66
Posted on Tue, 15 Apr 2008
My last bday my son told me Happy Birthday - he was a little over six. I could not have even imagined that happening two years earlier. Yes, he was prompted to say it - but he knew what it meant b/c it was his birthday two months earlier and was excited to give me a small gift. You can bet you are so important to that little one!!! I loved Shannon's comment about them 'being in there' but unable to access US. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
noaholiviaian
Posted on Tue, 15 Apr 2008
HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Your time will come with your 4 year old. Like others have said, my son is such a different boy than he was at age 4. I can tell you this story: I was telling my son to 'get the ball'. "Get the ball, get the ball." My DOG came back with the ball while my son wandered in circles wondering what I was asking for. Three years later, my son is in a regular 1st grade classroom with an aide, he has empathy, he tells me he loves me daily and he's excited to give me the birthday present he bought for me... it DOES get better and there is no reason to doubt it can get better for you. So, for today, take some joy in knowing you have dozens of people you've never met who are thinking of you on your birthday. Make yourself a treat and let your 4 year old blow out the candle!
shannonj
Posted on Tue, 15 Apr 2008
First of all, Happy Birthday! I hope you know how special you are and what a wonderful mom you are. For some reason, birthdays have a way of making us think deeply--feel deeply, so I can certainly understand your emotions today. I can also say that my son, now 13, tells me stories and memories from when he was 3, 4 and 5....things he remembers about events and activities that I never knew were even significant to him. I had a friend who had a teenager on the spectrum at the time that my son was a preschooler and she gave me a really good piece of advice. She told me that even though our kids seem like they are not available, that they don't get things---it is often just the opposite. They are so sensitive and aware that they process everything. And they are often so busy processing, that they seem tuned out....but they are really taking it all in. Chances are, your son knows it is your birthday and is taking it all in, but the processing part is distracting him from giving you the birthday kiss that is waiting on his sweet little mouth.....
4muskateers
Posted on Tue, 15 Apr 2008
Sweet Heart you better believe he knows you exist, he may not show it but I can promise you he knows you are there, that you will never leave him alone, and most of all that you love him...our kids have their feelings very well hidden...these little children are our candles in a very dark room...they lite up our lives and they keep us going...Try this out...stand in a dark room and lite a candel...it gives you just enough lite so you see where you are...now stand in the Same room with your child and the darkness isn't so dark...love shines through the darkest of times...I wish I could be there and give you a hug, but if you close your eyes after you read this, I know you will be able to feel me wrap my arms around you...If you can, try and read "Just Enough LIGHT for the Step I'm On", Trusting God in the Tough Times. by Stormie O'Martian. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, HAPPY BIRTHDAY OH SWEET HEART, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! and many , many more so you can catch up to me. ha,ha, ha.
Motherof4
Posted on Tue, 15 Apr 2008
Life gets better, hon. My son was in such a different place when he was four than where he is now, at 16. There's no telling how far your 4-year-old will progress, maybe even farther than you dare to dream! Hang in there.
frogfoot1969
Posted on Tue, 15 Apr 2008
You should make a little party, sing and blow out the candles even if it is just a cupcake. Happy Birthday, wish we were there to celebrate with you!
