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I am the dad of my 4 y/o daughter Liv. She was dx in August of 07. Liv is my only child. If you stop by my page leave me a post below. God Speed to you all.
I am in my mid 30's recently divorced (unrelated to autism & pre-regression). Liv & I enjoy the outdoors as much as possible. This summer I hope to take her camping with me. BTW, I am the worst speller of all time please take a laugh at how I spell ;)
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by KevinLivsDad on 03.28.08 - public - 142 visits
I don't know about you guys & I might be nutzo... But, have you ever experienced the ASD force. It is an odd perception of ASD. For example, some times I feel that an ASD parent is nearby this can be at a park, restaurant, store, whatever. One time I was at a park with Liv we where swinging on the swings. A lady with her little girl where playing nearby. Liv was just smiling & enjoying the swing. The lady said, "She sure likes to swing" she then tried to talk to Liv & interact. I told the lady that she is autistic & she loves to swing as she finds it soothing.. She said, ahh I have an autistic son, he is over there playing with his aide. This sort of thing has happened to many times. Several weeks ago I was at a store I felt a compelling need to go several aisles over & I saw a dad & adolescent daughter shopping from afar I could not tell his daughter was ASD'd. When I got closer I could so tell. I looked at his daughter & looked at him. I gave him the warm smile that so many of us ASD parents exchange when we spot each other in the wild. Over Christmas break I visited one of my parents neighbors who have a 2 y/o boy, all I could notice was the extremely subtle ASD characteristics that his parents where not aware of.
Finally, here is the real spooky thing. Way before I even had Liv I was very much aware of autism.. I was extremely curious about it. And, I felt a passion to better understand it.. Mostly, I wanted the enigma to be resolved. I wanted to understand why it was becoming so common. I actually googled the heck out of it. I remember multiple conversations I had had with one of my co-workers who was planning to have a family soon & expressed my concerns with the growing prevalence of autism. Autism was actually a hugely weird fear I had.. Later, just after we found out about Liv he confessed at how extremely weird it was my interest in autism was so many years before. I was so thankful every day when Liv was exceeding her milestones. I was so careful with her.. We ate organically, minimized all chemicals, questioned the docs about vaccinations, etc etc.
I often ponder was it self fulfilling prophecy, is it instinct, is it something subtle in my DNA, or is it something even weirder? So, my fear became our reality. Oh well, I put myself on the Xfiles spectrum now.. But, I am curious if others know what I am talking about.
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AWETISM
Posted on Fri, 28 Mar 2008
I recall a few years ago I was at Savemart with my son and he had one shoe off, well a lady said somthing to me about her gradchild. I told her for some reason he dose this because he has Autism. She said well I think my gradchild dose too. I never look at the small things the same anymore. I have more compasion in public now . Oh how I just want to HUG them all.
slhh130
Posted on Fri, 28 Mar 2008
I run into parents all the time. We have a big community where I live. We have a few in the neighborhood even. My best friend is 13 houses down with her son. I always knew deep down that he had autism. When my son was 9 months old my good friend's child was diagnosed and I asked her a zillion questions. We walked with them in a walk. I should have know when my son was acting up more than the other kids.
4muskateers
Posted on Fri, 28 Mar 2008
I had never heard of the word AUTISM before 1997, and I already had 3 children. I have noticed over the years and going out, that I too can pick out the children with autism, or any other disablility. It is a very errie feeling, you don't go around looking for autism, but don't you sometimes feel like your a magnet to it. But when Julian was diagnosed autism was 1 on 2000, WOW! we have come along way and still have no answers to this thief of a disease. All we have is each other.
cjkellie
Posted on Fri, 28 Mar 2008
this is so interesting to me. I never thought about autism before having Chad. I had seen the rain man and loved the movie but that was it for me. I wish I had read a book or had met someone before getting the diagnoses maybe then I wouldn't have felt so unprepared.
MyEverest
Posted on Fri, 28 Mar 2008
I know what you are talking about. Before I got married, I had my first encounter with autism when my landlord's son was diagnosed. In the back of my mind, I had the thought that some day I would be personally affected by autism. Well, while I was pregnant those thoughts came back. When my son came, he had to be delivered by emergency C-Section and he remained in the hospital a total of 23 days. Doctors told us of the many problems he could encounter. Amazingly I felt like I have always knewn that my child would have diffculties.
mommyof3gr8boys
Posted on Fri, 28 Mar 2008
I know what you mean as well. I too was fearful of autism before my son was born and dxed because it was in our family. I made sure my kids never had mercury shots even though the doctor told me there was no proof, I said well i would rather be safe! Also what pushed me to have EJ evaled, was that i have a very close friend and there son is ASD, i knew he had difficulties, they are still in denial and wont have him evaled its a very sad story for another time. I started doing research on all the symptoms that this boy had and started learning about autism, thats when i started to have concerns for my own son. I often find myself running into people and thinking OH that kid is on the spectrum, but i would/could never ask! I wonder if i see it in other people because i want to see it or if its like when you buy a new car, you never notice how many of them there are until you buy yours then you see them everywhere! who knows, maybe its just we are more intune with the traits because we live with it everyday.
Jake9068
Posted on Thu, 27 Mar 2008
I know what you are talking about. It also happens to me. I also had the interest in Autism and what it was prior to having either of my boys. I do think once you know the signs you start seeing it everywhere. I feel sad for the kids that are obviously on the spectrum but their parents are totally unaware for whatever reason. Awareness makes life easier for all involved.
