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I am the dad of my 4 y/o daughter Liv. She was dx in August of 07. Liv is my only child. If you stop by my page leave me a post below. God Speed to you all.
I am in my mid 30's recently divorced (unrelated to autism & pre-regression). Liv & I enjoy the outdoors as much as possible. This summer I hope to take her camping with me. BTW, I am the worst speller of all time please take a laugh at how I spell ;)
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by KevinLivsDad on 01.22.08 - public - 153 visits
Since I am a new ASD Dad I was curious if my anxiety is warranted & normal?
Every time Liv gets a cold/flu/fever I get so concerned. She often gets quiet, does not speak or make much noise, whining, & the glazed look. These are all things that I am sure all normal kids do. It is just that I get so fearful that it is the pinacle of another regression. Is the fever going to cause a regression I often think?
I guess that I am so anxious having gone through that regression, I have no REAL idea what caused it, & I feel that Liv's health is so fragile (even though I have no evidence that it is). Anyway, she is acting like she is not feeling well today & I am of course anxious. Let me know what you think?
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KevinLivsDad
Posted on Tue, 22 Jan 2008
Well, Liv seems to be over whatever it was that made her sick. So, all is good
shannonj
Posted on Tue, 22 Jan 2008
From what I understand, a fever is a good sign. It means that the immune system is working and doing its job of fighting off the enemy...and sometimes that might not feel so good to our kids. Sometimes a cool tubby can be relaxing...just don't get her chilled. My kids also like a cool cloth on their heads while they slept. My NT daughter has been the sick one in the family while my son with autism is hardly ever sick, and if he is, he is actually happier and sweeter--like somehow the illness has taken his body's attention away from the pain or inflammation of autism....Hang in there. You're a great dad.
cjkellie
Posted on Mon, 21 Jan 2008
I also understand your anxiety. I hope she feels better soon. Big hugs to her. Best of luck to you
carmel66
Posted on Mon, 21 Jan 2008
I call it parental Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome...Carson was so very sick when he had his regression. He could hardly breathe, had a febrile seizure, stopped breathing --- he's never been so sick since. But there is nothing like wondering if you are going to have to call 911 - deal with a regression - have to deal with antibiotics and all that. Or even just simple things like - not going to work b/c you have a sick kid home. The difference between my two when they are sick is amazing...my daughter whines and cries, coughs and screams. My son - quiet, watch tv, snuggle, sometimes just wants to stay in bed. I don't know if it's Austism or just personality differences (or both). Anyway, my fear of illness has let up a little bit this winter - just a little. But I do feel that dread kick in every cold and flu season...hang in there.
yayarocks
Posted on Mon, 21 Jan 2008
I completely understand your anxiety. I also feel that way when James gets sick. I think we just do what parents do when their child gets sick. Keep an eye on your child, and make them as cozy and happy as possible while they are feeling under the weather. The anxiety that comes with it, that I think is just part of the package with this whole emotional rollercoaster. I'm writing this to you as well as telling myself. Hang in there and give your little girl many kisses... they'll help you too! They always help me!
