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I have caught blogging fever - through my blog www.sportsmum.blogspot.com I feature highlights and lowlights of practices, lessons, tryouts, games, tournaments and carpool. Featuring Cameron (baseball, football, wrestling and track), Jackson (baseball, football and hockey), Caeden (baseball, football and soccer). Ably assisted by Mom Cynthia (driver, cheerleader and counselor)and Dad John (Assistant Coach). My blog has a secondary purpose as well. I hope to educate people about living with Aspergers, through the beautiful mind of our Jackson. He provides hope and humor in our lives everyday (as well as frustration and exasperation) but mostly, he makes our family whole!
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by SportsMum on 12.04.07 - public - 124 visits
We have a new obsession and this time it's scary. We have dealt with the irritating - picking his nose, peeing every five minutes; the frustrating; "is speedy going to be okay" (20 times a day); and the funny - "Mom, I finished Wikipedia!"
Knives aren't fun...three times in the last two weeks, whenever he gets angry or frustrated, he goes to the knife block in the kitchen (now removed), stands in front of it and growls.
The latest happened on Saturday night when we were at a Christmas party and his almost 14 year old brother was baby-sitting. I knew it was bad when I got a text on my cell PLEASE CALL!!! Fortunately, big brother is BIG and was able to diffuse the situation and remove the knives.
But I need advice - I can't wait for this obsession to pass...
Our immediate solution is that he has to come everywhere with us from now on and can no longer be alone in the house with anyone but us!
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SportsMum
Posted on Wed, 9 Jan 2008
Thanks for all the comments and advice. We have our family doctor (friend of the family) working on finding us a counselor. I'm very relieved to know that this is not uncommon. And we're not adverse to meds either, in fact, we've anticipated the need for something once he hit puberty (which is imminent). I'll keep you posted...
Agreed - scary. I have no experience or helpful insights. I know families dealing with other frightful behaviors and they have brought in outside help like Behavioral Health or requested help from the school or department of health services. Keep us posted.
janneane7
Posted on Tue, 4 Dec 2007
sorry, when I typed the names of the books they were in a list. Here they are again: The Incredible 6 Point Scale; When my worries get to big; A 5 Could Make me Loose Control; Exploring Feelings: Cognitive Behaviour Therapy to Manage Anger
janneane7
Posted on Tue, 4 Dec 2007
It seems he needs some strategies to help him learn ways to deal with angry feelings. Some great books on this topic and all get be bought on Amazon The Incredible 6 Point Scale When my worries get to big A 5 Could Make me Loose Control Exploring Feelings: Cognitive Behaviour Therapy to Manage Anger I will never forget when my daughter was about 11 and she was having some pretty powerful feelings that were distressing her. She was slamming doors and having screaming meltdowns (this is my NT daughter... not my son with Autism) I got really upset with her one day and she said to me "What am I supposed to do with all of this anger? What do you want me to do?" I was stunned when I didn't have an answer for her. I didn't know what to tell her. That helped me realize that often we don't know what do or what to tell our children when it comes to extreme feelings and how to deal with them. After seeking some advice I bought her a journal and told her she could write all of her angry feelings down. That really helped her so much! She would spend hours every week writing in her journal. (She is one heck of a writer today too!) For my son who went through a huge crisis with severe behavior, kicking holes in the walls and breaking windows by slamming his hand against them, we learned about and then taught him some relaxation stratiges. We only did these when he was calm and realxed and in a good mood. These strategies really helped him and the practicing times where we would sit on the couch and practice our "relaxing breaths" turned in to really fun times. I know this is difficult and challenging. If you feel you need outisde help you should bring in someone who understands kids with ASD thoroughly. Someone who will help you provide supports for him to understand and learn to handle his feelings, rather than just someone who wants to use behavior modification because that teaches him nothing. Good luck and please keep us updated!
shannonj
Posted on Tue, 4 Dec 2007
I have a friend whose son became obsessed with guns and knives. He wasn't on the spectrum, but did suffer from anxiety and severe OCD. She took him to a counselor to help him talk about his fears etc...and also, at his request, removed the guns (dad was a hunter) and knives from the house. He felt better knowing they were locked up. He also was given a medication (I think Prozac) to help his anxiety....I'm not one to push for meds as we have NOT had good experiences with them, but I think your son's moods might be a symptom of anxiety or fear, and getting to the root cause may help him be safe. Please be careful ....
Carol
Posted on Mon, 3 Dec 2007
Very scary. Do you have access to Behavioral Health services? We accessed this a few years ago when our son was hitting his father, brother and the male ed. tech in his classroom. They helped us develop and carry out a plan to fade the behavior. Please keep Foggyrock posted. This is a common problem.
