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by dailyblessings on 06.27.08 - public - 122 visits
I knew the time would come that I would have to face the issue that my son has hit puberty but need some support in how to deal with the aftermath of "you do this in private" and how to acknowledge the hygiene issue that exists after! Suggestions??...and "no, dad will not accept this job" already tried that route!
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4thekidz
Posted on Fri, 27 Jun 2008
I worked in a group home where there was a very high functioning young man and the routine there was he had designated wash cloths or towels (one color) that way everyone knew when we saw those towels etc. He was responsible for his own laundry so we didn't have to worry about that.
Johanna
Posted on Thu, 26 Jun 2008
I dreaded that too...Daniel is only 5 so I have awhile to go but my NT son Chris is 15 and I have been asking my husband to have the talk with him for years now and I am told "I will get to it". Well, one day not too long ago I walk into the toy room and low and behold I had a sight I was not ready to see. I then had to explain to him that should be done in private and not somewhere in the house that others come and go!!! So, it happens with all boys :)
4muskateers
Posted on Thu, 26 Jun 2008
I asked this question on puberty a while back, and really there is no help...so we haven't had a bg issue yet thank GOD, but we do just tell him not to play with himself...this reminds me of when he was little and found the thing...know my 1/12 and 2 years old grandsons have found the thing, so now we will all be learning together...yippy!
mercurymom
Posted on Thu, 26 Jun 2008
I'M THERE!!! I hate to say it..but my older son handled it best of all...talking to him and telling him "this is normal all guys do this, but you stay in your room and change you undershort after." SSSSOOO guess what I get to find under the bed where he kicks his clothing...Really we all just redirect him if he has issue out of his room..and DON'T make a big deal out of it is best. My WORST minutes..out in public when a pretty girls smiles at him...oh joy...at once..we know..yea, he IS all boy!! :)
Motherof4
Posted on Thu, 26 Jun 2008
Ah, yes... Been there, done that. Maybe you could encourage him to use the bathroom, for privacy, and have him wipe himself and wash his hands afterwards? I don't know how high functioning your son is, but-- sorry-- a picture schedule or social story might be a great help. For a higher functioning kid, a brief, blunt conversation might be just the thing, but bear in mind, you'll have to repeat the conversation many times: "Wash your hands afterwards and bring your sheets to the laundry room if you get ANYTHING on them." Good luck, and TRY to keep a sense of humor!
